Therapy at Colangelo Counseling
Evidence-based care
Personalized to you.
Therapy is a collaborative process. My role is to help you better understand what you're experiencing, build effective tools, and create meaningful change that lasts.
Virtual Therapy in NC & SC
In Person Therapy in Charlotte, NC
Aetna & BCBS Accepted
My Therapeutic Approach
I use an integrative, evidence-based approach tailored to your unique needs. This means we'll draw from different therapies based on what fits you best, not a one-size-fits-all model.
My work is collaborative, compassionate, and grounded in both clinical expertise and real-world practicality.
- Collaborative and client-centered
- Evidence-based and outcomes-focused
- Practical tools you can use in daily life
- A safe space to be honest, curious, and human
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
CBT focuses on the connection between thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Many times, the way we think about situations can unintentionally keep us stuck in cycles of anxiety, self-criticism, avoidance, or overwhelm.
In therapy, we work on identifying unhelpful thought patterns, understanding how they impact emotions and behavior, and practicing more balanced and effective ways of responding.
CBT can help with:
- Anxiety and overthinking
- Negative self-talk
- Perfectionism
- Depression
- Eating disorder thoughts and behaviors
- Avoidance patterns
The goal is not “positive thinking.”
The goal is learning how to respond to thoughts in a way that feels healthier, more flexible, and less overwhelming.
- Anxiety and overthinking
Exposure & Response Prevention (ERP)
ERP is considered the gold-standard treatment for OCD and anxiety disorders involving fear, avoidance, compulsions, or reassurance seeking.
OCD often creates a cycle:
- An intrusive thought, feeling, or fear appears
- Anxiety increases
- A compulsion or ritual temporarily relieves the anxiety
- The brain learns the compulsion is necessary
- The cycle continues
ERP helps break that cycle.
Together, we gradually practice facing fears, uncertainty, intrusive thoughts, or uncomfortable sensations without relying on compulsions or avoidance behaviors.
ERP is never about “throwing you into fears” without support. Therapy moves at a manageable pace while helping your brain learn:
“I can handle discomfort without needing to control or neutralize it.”
ERP can help with:
- Intrusive thoughts
- Reassurance seeking
- Mental compulsions
- Contamination fears
- “Just right” feelings
- Checking behaviors
- Health anxiety
- Relationship OCD
- Food-related fears and avoidance
- An intrusive thought, feeling, or fear appears
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
DBT focuses on building practical skills for managing intense emotions, stress, impulsive behaviors, relationship difficulties, and emotional overwhelm.
Many people were never actually taught how to:
- regulate emotions
- tolerate distress
- communicate effectively
- set boundaries
- slow down nervous system overwhelm
DBT helps build those skills in a structured and supportive way.
DBT skills often focus on:
- Emotion regulation
- Distress tolerance
- Mindfulness
- Interpersonal effectiveness
- Coping with urges or impulsive behaviors
- Managing emotional reactivity
The goal is not becoming emotionless.
The goal is learning how to experience emotions without feeling completely consumed by them.
- regulate emotions
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
ACT helps people develop a healthier relationship with difficult thoughts, emotions, and internal experiences instead of constantly fighting against them.
Many people get stuck trying to:
- eliminate anxiety
- control thoughts
- avoid discomfort
- feel “100% certain”
- stop difficult emotions from existing
ACT teaches that struggling against internal experiences often makes them feel bigger and more consuming.
Instead of focusing on “getting rid” of thoughts or emotions, ACT focuses on:
- making space for difficult feelings
- learning cognitive flexibility
- reducing avoidance
- reconnecting with personal values
- building a meaningful life even when discomfort exists
ACT can be especially helpful for:
- OCD
- Anxiety
- Perfectionism
- Self-criticism
- Burnout
- Shame
- Emotional avoidance
- eliminate anxiety
Internal Family Systems (IFS) (Parts work)
Parts work is based on the idea that people are made up of different “parts” or internal experiences that often develop to protect us, cope, or help us survive difficult situations.
For example:
- one part may push you to overachieve
- another part may feel deeply anxious
- another part may avoid emotions entirely
- another part may use control around food to feel safe
Rather than judging these parts, therapy focuses on understanding them with curiosity and compassion.
This approach can help reduce shame and internal conflict while creating more emotional balance and self-understanding.
Parts work is often helpful for:
- Trauma
- Anxiety
- Eating disorders
- Perfectionism
- Emotional avoidance
- Self-criticism
- Identity struggles
- one part may push you to overachieve
Somatic Experiencing
Somatic therapy focuses on the connection between the mind and body.
Stress, trauma, anxiety, and chronic overwhelm do not only exist cognitively — they also impact the nervous system and physical body.
Many people notice symptoms such as:
- chronic tension
- difficulty relaxing
- feeling constantly “on edge”
- numbness or shutdown
- panic sensations
- dissociation
- exhaustion
- difficulty feeling present
Somatic and nervous system informed approaches help increase awareness of these responses while building tools to support regulation and safety within the body.
This may include:
- grounding techniques
- body awareness
- nervous system regulation
- mindfulness
- identifying stress responses
- learning how the body responds to overwhelm
The goal is helping both your mind and body feel safer, calmer, and more connected.
- chronic tension
Therapy for
Eating Disorders &
Body Image
Therapy for eating disorders is about more than food.
Together, we work on understanding the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns that may be keeping you stuck while building a healthier, more flexible relationship with food, movement, and your body.
Therapy may include:
- Reducing food guilt and rigidity
- Challenging eating disorder thoughts and behaviors
- Processing emotions underneath the eating disorder
- Building coping strategies beyond control or restriction
- Exposure work around feared foods, body image, or eating situations
- Learning to reconnect with hunger, fullness, and body trust
- Coordination with dietitians, physicians, or higher levels of care when needed
OCD therapy focuses on helping you break out of obsessive thought loops, compulsions, reassurance seeking, and the constant need to feel certain.
Therapy is not about “getting rid” of thoughts.
It’s about changing your relationship with them so they stop controlling your life.
Therapy may include:
- Exposure & Response Prevention (ERP)
- Reducing compulsions and reassurance seeking
- Building tolerance for uncertainty
- Understanding intrusive thoughts and fear cycles
- Learning how OCD attaches to what matters most
- Reducing mental rituals, rumination, and checking behaviors
- Creating more flexibility and freedom in daily life
Therapy for
OCD & Intrusive Thoughts
Therapy for
Anxiety & Overwhelm
Therapy focuses on understanding the patterns contributing to anxiety while building tools to help life feel more manageable and less controlled by fear or stress.
Therapy may include:
- Understanding anxiety cycles and nervous system responses
- Managing racing thoughts and chronic worry
- Reducing avoidance behaviors
- Building emotional regulation and coping skills
- Learning grounding and nervous system regulation techniques
- Challenging self-critical or catastrophic thinking patterns
- Improving boundaries and reducing emotional overload
- Increasing flexibility and tolerance for uncertainty
Therapy focuses on understanding these patterns while helping you build a healthier and more sustainable relationship with yourself, work, expectations, and relationships.
Therapy may include:
- Identifying chronic stress and burnout patterns
- Understanding perfectionism and self-pressure
- Reducing people pleasing and overfunctioning
- Building healthier boundaries
- Exploring identity outside of achievement or productivity
- Learning how to rest without guilt
- Increasing self-compassion and emotional awareness
- Reconnecting with balance, enjoyment, and personal needs
Therapy for
Burnout & People Pleasing
Common questions about therapy
How do I know if therapy is right for me?
You do not need to be in crisis for therapy to be helpful. Many people start therapy because they feel overwhelmed, stuck, anxious, emotionally exhausted, disconnected from themselves, or tired of repeating the same patterns. Therapy can provide support, insight, and practical tools to help life feel more manageable.
What can I expect during the first session?
The first session is focused on getting to know you, understanding what has been going on, and discussing what you hope to get out of therapy. We will also talk about your history, current concerns, and goals for treatment. There is no pressure to share everything immediately; therapy is a process, and we move at a pace that feels comfortable.
How often will we meet?
Most clients begin with weekly sessions to build consistency and momentum in therapy. Depending on your needs and goals, sessions may later become biweekly or adjusted over time.
How long does therapy take?
There is no “right” timeline for therapy. Some people benefit from shorter-term support focused on specific concerns, while others prefer longer-term therapy for deeper emotional work and ongoing growth. The length of therapy depends on your goals, symptoms, and what feels most helpful for you.
What types of therapy do you use?
I use evidence-based approaches, including CBT, ERP, DBT, ACT, IFS, and somatic experiencing. Therapy is individualized, meaning we will work together to find the approach that best fits your needs and goals.
Do I need to know exactly what’s wrong before starting therapy?
Not at all. Many people come to therapy knowing they are struggling but not fully understanding why. Part of the process is helping you better understand your emotions, patterns, stressors, and experiences in a supportive and collaborative way.
What if I have trouble opening up?
That is completely okay. Many people feel nervous starting therapy or struggle with vulnerability, especially if they are used to handling things on their own. Building trust takes time, and there is no expectation to immediately share everything all at once.
Is therapy confidential?
Yes. Therapy is confidential, meaning what you share in sessions stays private except in specific situations required by law, such as safety concerns involving harm to yourself or others, abuse, or court-related requirements. Confidentiality and its limits will be reviewed during the intake process.
Do you offer virtual therapy?
Yes. I provide virtual therapy for clients located in North and South Carolina, as well as in-person sessions in SouthPark Charlotte, NC.
Do you accept insurance?
I currently accept Aetna and Blue Cross Blue Shield. I can also provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement depending on your insurance plan.
